biztató gondolatok

csodálatos boldogulni egyedül (de nem vagyok soha egyedül)

és igazán megismerni, milyen más egyebütt

annál jobban szeretni otthon

igazán értékelni, hogy mi a jó (itt is, ott is)

nem szabad félni

mert ha valami nehéz, vagy furcsa

megoldod

úgysem mindig valósul meg amitől félünk

csakis tőled függ

lehet megváltozol míg kint vagy

nem fog olyan rossz dolognak tűnni, ha nem akarsz hazatérni

teljesen másképp fogod látni a világot

bízol benne, hogy bárhol leélheted az életed, ha szerető embereket találsz

vagy lehetsz nomád

ugyanakkor

lehet hogy éppen azért rájössz, hogy az a legjobb, ha otthon élsz

mindentől függetlenül

hogy olyan jót (család, barátok, közösség) nem tudsz kialakítani egyebütt

(bár ha valamit nagyon akarsz, meg tudod csinálni)

de nem tudod otthagyni őket, velük kell éljél

attól függetlenül hogy máshol jobb az élet, több a mosolygós ember

mindenütt vannak nehézségek is

s jobb az otthoni nehézségekkel szembenézni, mint idegenekkel

azok az emberek kellenek igazán, akik otthon vannak

az ők mosolyuk mindennél drágább

bízni kell magadban

és azt tenni, amit kívánsz

nincs rossz választás

csak mi ítéljük annak,

ha nem tudunk hálásak lenni

azért, amit az életben kaptunk

-------hogy nem volt mindig csak szenvedés

-------hogy felismerjük mi igazán fontos számunkra

és ezentúl annak tudatában élhetünk

nem vagyunk eltévedve vagy céltalanul

nézőpont kérdése

hálás vagy hálátlan:

öröm vagy bánat

encouraging thoughts

it's amazing to manage on your own (but I'm never alone)

and to find out what it's really like in other places

to love it even more at home

to truly cherish what is good (here as well as there)

you shouldn't be afraid

'cause if something is difficult or weird

you'll sort it out

anyway our fears don't come true all the time

it only depends on you

you might change while you're away

it won't seem such a bad thing if you don't want to come back

you'll see the world in a totally different way

you trust that you can live your life anywhere, as long as you find loving people

or you can be a nomad

at the same time

perhaps you'll realize that it's best if you live at home

irrespective of everything

that such good things you can't build anywhere else (family, friends, community)

(though if you really want something, you can do it)

but you can't leave them, you need to live with them

no matter if elsewhere life is better, there are more smiling people

there are difficulties everywhere

and it's better to face them at home, than in strange lands

you truly need the people who are at home

their smile is more dear than anything

you must trust yourself

and do as you want

there is no wrong choice

only we see it that way

if we can't be thankful

for everything we receive in life

-------that it wasn't all but suffering

-------that we recognize what is truly important for us

and we can live on knowing that

we are not lost or without a purpose

depends on the viewpoint

thankful or ungrateful:

joy or sorrow

gânduri încurajatoare

e minunat să te descurci singur (dar nu sunt niciodată singură)

şi să cunoşti cu adevărat cât de diferit e în alte părţi

să iubeşti cu atât mai mult unde eşti acasă

să recunoşti ce e bun (şi aici, şi acolo)

nu trebuie să ne fie teamă

fiindcă dacă ceva e greu sau ciudat

vei rezolva

oricum nu devin realitate toate temerile noastre

depinde numai de tine

se poate că te vei schimba cât eşti afară

nu ţi se va părea un lucru atât de rău că nu vrei să te întorci acasă

vei vedea lumea cu totul altfel

ai încredere că îti poţi trăi viaţa oriunde, dacă găseşti oameni iubitori

sau poţi fi nomad

în acelaşi timp

se poate că tocmai de aceea îţi dai seama că cel mai bine e să trăieşti acasă

indiferent de toate

că nu poţi să dezvolţi altundeva aşa bucurii (familie, prieteni, comunitate)

(deşi dacă vrei ceva cu adevărat, poţi s-o faci)

dar nu-i poţi lăsa acolo, trebuie să trăieşti cu ei

indiferent că viaţa e mai bună altundeva, sunt mai mulţi oameni care zâmbesc

peste tot sunt şi dificultăţi

şi e mai bine să înfunţi dificultăţile de acasă, decât unele străine

acei oameni îţi trebuie cu adevărat, care sunt acasă

zâmbetul lor e mai scump decât orice altceva

trebuie să ai încredere în tine

şi să faci ce îţi doreşti

nu există alegere proastă

doar noi spunem astfel

dacă nu putem să fim recunoscători

pentru ceea ce primim în viaţă

-------că nu a fost numai suferinţă

-------că recunoaştem ce e cu adevărat important pentru noi

şi de acum încolo trăim cunoscând aceste lucruri

nu suntem pierduţi sau fără scop

depinde de punctul de vedere

recunoscător sau nerecunoscător:

bucurie sau tristeţe

Life is like a comparison*

We've got it all wrong. We don't travel through time from the past into the future.
Time comes from the future.** It flows through the present and pours into the past.
Like pouring the wine out of a glass. The future is in the glass, and the past is spilled on the floor, or you drank it. You can't know for how long you can keep pouring the wine until it runs out. Clearly, you only have a certain quantity and you might accidentally spill it all out in any moment. Also, once you poured it out, you can't get it back into the glass or pour it out again. So you need to enjoy every little drop, when it comes...

*SSDD used to say that a lot back in highschool.
**I heard this idea at a grammar lecture, yesterday.

ebbe nem kotty belé szilvalé, de szép

Ez a vonat ha elindul hadd menjen
Énutánam senki ne keseregjen
Ha valaki énutánam kesereg
A jó Isten a két kezével áldja meg

Kicsi madár miért keseregsz az ágon
Nem csak te vagy elhagyott a világon
Nekem sincsen édesapám,sem anyám
A jó Isten mégis gondot visel rám

Életemben csak egyszer voltam boldog
Akkor is a két szememből könny hullott
Sírtam is én örömimban hogy szeretsz,
Bánatimban hogy az enyém nem lehetsz.

Ten Reasons not to Use Your Microwave Oven

Based on Swiss, Russian and German clinical studies

I had heard a long time ago that microwaves changed the food and made it unhealthy. So today after I ate an apple baked in the microwave, I thought I could ask Mark what was his opinion on this appliance, because I needed to know something for sure: are microwaves really dangerous? Then he sent me a report. Let me just say... today was the last day of microwave for me. I don't want to poison myself just because it's more convenient and quicker. I'll manage without it, it's just very very bad!!!
The report explains exactly how microwaves work, how they were invented and then mentions that they were banned in the Soviet Union back in 1976! (hmm why would they ban it if it was so 'harmless'?) It also presents scientific evidents from several studies.
Read through these Ten Reasons not to Use Your Microwave Oven from the end of that article (unfortunately the link is gone, so you can't find it to read how they reached to this conclusion).
[the last 3 are the most shocking]

1. Continually eating food processed from a microwave oven causes long term, permanent, brain damage by "shorting out" electrical impulses in the brain [de-polarizing or de-magnetizing the brain tissue].
   
   

2. The human body cannot metabolize [break down] the unknown by-products created in micro-waved food.
   
   

3. Male and female hormone production is shut down and/or altered by continually eating micro-waved foods.
   
   

4. The effects of micro-waved food by-products are residual [long term, permanent] within the human body.
   
   

5. Minerals, vitamins, and nutrients of all micro-waved food is reduced or altered so that the human body gets little or no benefit, or the human body absorbs altered compounds that cannot be broken down.
   
   

6. The minerals in vegetables are altered into cancerous free radicals when cooked in a microwave oven.
   
   

7. Micro-waved foods cause stomach and intestinal cancerous growths [tumors]. This has been a primary contributor to the rapidly increased rate of colon cancer in the United States.
   
   

8. The prolonged eating of micro-waved foods causes cancerous cells to increase in human blood.
   
   

9. Continual ingestion of micro-waved food causes immune system deficiencies through lymph gland and blood serum alterations.
   
   

10. Eating micro-waved food causes loss of memory, concentration, emotional instability, and a decrease of intelligence.

The symptoms of HD

• Stiffness or decreased movement
• Weakness
• Pulsating sensation
• Tingling
• Prolonged breathing pauses
• Palpitations
• Pressure or heaviness
• Tightness
• Low oxytocin level
• Discomfort
• Inability to move

...those are the symptoms of Hug Deprivation

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To not defend ourselves, but instead hear what is being said, and then be able to express our understanding through acknowledgement will beat a box of chocolates any day. (*)

Soha se fogod megtudni milyen csodálatos dolgokról maradtál le. Abban a pillanatban, amikor úgy döntöttél, hogy nem nyílsz meg a többiek felé, akik figyelmet és segítséget nyújtottak, az életed egy más irányba indult el. Lehet neked így megfelel. Eléggé sajnálom, hogy így alakult. De sose késő, biztos vagyok, hogy lesz még rá alkalom, hogy kellemes pillanatokat éljél át. A fontos az, hogy nyisd ki a szemed és fogadd be azokat a lehetőségeket, mert nincs túl sok belőlük.

N-o să ştii niciodată ce lucruri minunate ai pierdut. În clipa în care ai ales să nu te deschizi spre ceilalţi, care îţi ofereau atenţie şi ajutor, viaţa ta a luat o altă direcţie. Poate că tu preferi aşa. Îmi pare destul de rău că aşa s-a întâmplat. Dar nu e niciodată târziu, sunt sigură că vor mai fi ocazii să savurezi momente plăcute. Important e să deschizi ochii şi să accepţi acele ocazii, fiindcă nu sunt prea multe.

You'll never know what wonderful things you missed. The moment you chose not to open towards the others, who were offering you attention and help, your life took an other turn. Perhaps that's what you prefer. I'm quite sorry things turned out this way. But it's never late, you know, I'm sure there will be other chances to enjoy good times. What's important is that you open your eyes and let them in, because we only get so many opportunities in our lives.

train of thoughts that followed a course of economics - part II

An other thing I've been trying to figure out is why people are so obsessed with economic growth. The reason why I want to understand this aspect of our society is that I really want to prove that it's plain group suicide...

Why do people fight and work so hard to achieve economic growth? It is said that it brings an increase in the quality of life. But let's not forget that there is a limit to everything.

Firstly what does quality of life mean? Is it working 12 hours a day, without a moment for yourself, your family and friends, working to fill your house with cool furniture (that you barely get to enjoy) and your wardrobe with the newest clothes? You'd think that all this economic growth would give us more free time, yet it doesn't, we always need to work more to buy more.

Secondly just think about where we are growing... A person can't even grasp how immensely we have extended and occupied Earth in the last century. Hundreds of people have been desperately working on demonstrating that our planet can't sustain all of us if our population keeps increasing at this pace. It is said that great ancient civilisations (like the mayans) disappeared because of famine. Why do we fool ourselves that the same thing can't happen to us as well? It seems to me we aren't very intelligent, considering that we are still unable to learn from past mistakes.

I had been wondering about this urge to have economic growth for years. And I still can't understand what for?! Why do people fight for it? Economic growth (in my opinion) means more people on Earth, all of them working harder and harder. Is it actually worth it?

We need to reestablish what we really value and change the way we think as a society - because we can't just say "I don't understand what'up with all the fuzz, but what can I do? Everybody else wants this...". Because people don't want this, but they can't see it or admit it. This is not quality of life - in so many ways.

Question: What is quality of life for you?

(and think of what you would be willing to sacrifice for it?)